I’ve been thinking so much about grief lately and my experience with it and what someone grieving needs. And I really feel that what someone needs through the sorrow and deep ache of losing someone is a person who will love them in all their forms. That means when it’s not always 100% convenient. There were so many nights when all I did was regret the way I felt and the mistakes I made in grief when I didn’t know how I should act in my friendships and relationships. I had some wonderful people through losing Ryan who did a great job, but I always felt so worried because I was never told it was OKAY to freak out, or to cry my eyes out, or to make awful mistakes in friendships, and say stupid things. I needed to know it was OKAY to be real about how I felt. All along that was all I needed.
We aren’t called to love people when it’s easy for us and it doesn’t get uncomfortable or messy. We’re called to love when no one else will and when people make mistakes and need grace.
Really. Just BE there. Let them grieve.
One of my great friends I grew up with had the most BEAUTIFUL baby boy i’ve ever seen today! I haven’t gotten to see her much since high school, but she and her family mean so much to me. I can’t wait to meet this little blessing!
AND, one of my very best friends got engaged today! So happy for her and her FIANCE! WOOHOO! what a joyful, joyful day! YAY, YAY, YAY! Thank you Lord!